There is simply no underestimating the role of alcohol in sexual battery, nor spousal abuse, nor tasteless statements and behavior. None. When you tally up the the all-around “cost” of alcohol to include the ‘mornings after’ and the subsequent psychological damages to all involved (ie. family, employers) or in any reactions to what may have occurred under its influence, you have to add spousal and sexual abuse to the already long list of fatal accidents and pickled livers and lost work and failed judgment and children beaten and the rest.
The most important advice to people who want to avoid either being ridiculed, neglected, ignored and abused or being accused of it is to control their drinking.
Alcohol does stupid things, so the flag should go up when the first glass is raised. Now comes complete randomness. Now comes chaos.
This is an explanation, not an excuse.