These are all good reasons not to cheat on your spouse. If you simply recall what you went through to get married to your spouse in the first place, it might help temper your lust for adventure. Be honest with yourself, though. I went through it myself in Germany. My Revenge? I let him have her. In the EU it takes 3 years for a divorce if it is contested – which I did for spite. I moved back to the USA with only a suitcase and a few hundred dollars – left the life and the condo and the fantasy behind. Broke my Heart and ended up homeless and depressed. Think about that if you are married and considering a fling. Trust your spouse even if you think you want to hurt them for some reason or for Power. If you really believe you have to get a new partner – tell them you must break it off with your spouse first. Time heals and then you will find the right mate. Remember – the cheater is likely going to cheat on you, too!